Thursday, May 6, 2010

Lifetime friends

There are some friends that float into your life at just the right time and then they float away. It is nothing bad and those friends will always be in your heart it is just that their time with you was meant for something that was shorter. Then there are lifetime friends. Friends you know you will always be very close to. Sally is one of those friends. We may live apart now but she is never far away. We met in High School and we were inseparable - writing notes to each other in class and spending every weekend trying to find something fun to do. She was my maid of honor in my wedding and we went through life chapters at pretty much the same time - marriage, children, buying a home. Most of this time we were not living close to each other. Sometimes we would go a month and not talk - life just getting in the way - but when we did connect it was like we never stopped talking.

Sally has called me every single day since I was diagnosed. She flew out here from Colorado just to sit by my side during chemo. I felt bad that her trip to California was not one filled with wine tasting and beach lounging but I don't think either one of us could have been happier. We were together. I am sad that she left today - but I am so grateful to have had this time with my very, very special friend. To look at her face and know she is real - now I can see her on the other end of the phone line when she calls tomorrow.

Thank you Sally for being one of my rocks - knowing just the right things to say and always staying positive. You are my biggest cheerleader and you don't know how much I appreciate the "you can do it!" cheers. Thank you for leaving your family for a few days to come spend time with me. I don't know that I will ever be able to repay you or your family - you gave me just exactly what I needed. I love you.


ayen silly said...

I love this post :)

Sally said...

Oh, Kristin. I just don't know what to say. I love you beyond all comprehension. I feel like I left my right arm in California today. I am so glad I could be there with you for the last few days, and your last day of chemo. I only wish we could see each other more often. You mean so much to me. I loved being with you and with your great family. It was so fun to see your beautiful kids and that great husband of yours again - it has really been too long. I had such a great time - I don't need beaches or wine tastings. We'll do that next time though just because we'll be celebrating your CURE. I love you. Thank you for everything. You are truly amazing, but that's not new - you always have been and you always will be.

john alexander said...

I wanted to tell you how much I enjoyed having you stay with us last week. It was easy to have you which I know you get. I also wanted to thank you for taking such good care of Kristin perticularly since the diagnosis. You have truely been there for her and that is not easy to know how to do but you do and you did and i am sure you will continue to do. it brings a deeper understanding for me of the friendship that you two have and it has been a joy to watch or read.
I hate this cancer but I love the journey.

Sally said...

You totally made me cry! I have been thinking almost identical things about you since this all started. You are an amazing husband and have proven that over and over again these past few months. Kristin needed you to be and do EXACTLY what you've been doing. How did you know? You are there for her like few men could be for their wives, and I'm so impressed. She has told me MANY times that even though cancer really sucks, your relationship is better than it's ever been, and she knows she can count on you no matter what happens for the rest of your long lives. That's no small feat!!! I appreciate you, and I'm so glad Kristin has you. I loved hanging out with you last week - you have such a great attitude toward life in general and I can still hear your laugh in my head. :-) Now I'm craving Teriyaki sauce. Weird.